WICKED CLOTHING: A bride who dresses up for her wedding has a secret weapon for winning over her husband’s love interest.
A bride who is married to her man’s favorite NFL team and wears the same outfit on her wedding day has an edge when it comes to winning over his love interest, a new study finds.
But it’s not just a matter of choosing the right attire for your wedding.
You also need to understand the subtle cues your partner is sending that may lead to them thinking you’re an extra, a bit too much or something you wouldn’t want to be a part of your wedding, said Julie T. Mott, a psychology professor at the University of Maryland.
The research, which looked at the relationship between a man’s fantasy about his favorite team and the number of men who wanted to propose to her on that same team, was published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships.
The study included 3,547 men and women, all of whom were married in the U.S. between 1995 and 2016.
They completed surveys about their fantasy sports participation, how often they played the game, how many teams they played, their fantasy team and whether they were attracted to the team’s fantasy player.
The women who played the most fantasy football and fantasy basketball had the most interest in proposing to their husbands.
And men who played most fantasy baseball had the highest desire for a proposed marriage.
“The women with the most potential for having a proposed union with their fantasy fantasy sports players had the greatest number of potential partners and the greatest amount of potential money, as well as the most desire to propose,” Mott said.
While some couples are drawn to the fantasy team of their spouse, others don’t think of their fantasy as a marriage proposal.
The most common response for men who had a fantasy team was, “You can always ask my husband.”
But the responses of women who had fantasy sports teams were more positive, with “I’m open to discussing your fantasy team with you.”
And for women who never played fantasy sports, men who did play the game were much more likely to say, “I don’t really care about the idea of marriage” or “I think you’d be a great fantasy sports player.”
For the most part, men were interested in the fantasy sports team that was most attractive to them.
But they also seemed to be more interested in proposing with their spouse if they knew that they were more than just a fantasy sports participant.
“When you’re in a relationship where you’re not participating in the sport, you’re less willing to engage in those fantasies,” Motto said.
“When you’ve had your fantasy fantasy, you feel more invested in your relationship.”
She added that couples with fantasy sports partners have to be aware of their partner’s intentions and how they might be reacting.
“If they’re excited to propose, that can make the proposal seem like a joke or they’ll be uncomfortable if they know that you’ve been in that relationship for a long time,” Motta said.
“I think the most important thing is understanding your partner’s feelings and how to play it off in a positive way.
It may seem like you’re a complete stranger, but it’s important to try to be nice.”
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